Apology not required
One of the most emphasized themes in Jesus' teachings is forgiveness. Even in His final moments on the cross, Jesus demonstrated the depth of His mercy by praying,
"Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do" (Luke 23:34). This powerful act of compassion was not just an isolated event; it reflected the heart of God's character and the standard He expects His followers to live by.
When Peter asked Jesus how many times he should forgive someone, wondering if seven times was enough, Jesus responded, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times" (Matthew 18:22). In other words, forgiveness is not something we measure or limit. It's a lifestyle we are called to practice continually, a commitment we must uphold without ceasing. Jesus then followed that teaching with the Parable of the Unforgiving Servant to illustrate just how serious God is about our forgiving others as we have been forgiven.
In both Matthew 18:15-17 and Mark 11:25, Jesus gave clear instructions on how to deal with those who have wronged us or with whom we have disagreements. Forgiveness isn't optional for believers, it's a command. And it's a path toward restoration, healing, and peace, a responsibility we each hold in our hands.
While the world may promote holding grudges, canceling people, or seeking revenge, the Bible lays out a different standard. No matter how deep the wound or how serious the offense, Scripture makes it clear we are never justified in withholding forgiveness. Why? Because we ourselves have offended God repeatedly. Every day we fall short, yet He offers us mercy and grace without hesitation.
"As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us" (Psalm 103:12). God doesn't deal with us according to what we deserve. Instead, He forgives completely, lovingly, and continually. If we are recipients of such radical grace, we are called to extend it to others. Unforgiveness doesn't just harm relationships-it damages our own hearts. It creates a root of bitterness that can hinder our prayers and block spiritual growth (Hebrews 12:15). Holding onto offense is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to suffer.
As followers of Christ, we must choose the biblical way of forgiveness. Not just because it's right, but because it reflects the heart of our Father. When we forgive, we release ourselves from the chains of resentment and step into the transformative freedom and peace that God desires for us, even if they don’t apologize.
